“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”
I feel like Proverbs 18:21 should be hung up everywhere in my home. That way every time I open my mouth to speak I can be reminded that death and life are in the power of the tongue.
Is what I am about to say going to tear someone down or build them up? Encourage or discourage. Sting or be sweet?
Often times our spouses are the ones who feel the sting from our words. They are the ones we direct angry tones toward.
Like Proverbs 18:21 says death and life are in the power of the tongue.
Instead of directing those deadly words and tones toward our spouse let’s use words that bring life! Encouraging, uplifting, loving words instead of discouraging, degrading, angry words.
I made a little list of words that can do just that- encourage, uplift, and show love. Try to use these words more often and see what kind of life it brings into your marriage.
Thankyou. Thanks for taking out the trash. Thanks for providing for our family. Thanks for letting me vent. Thanks for handling the kids. Try to say thankyou more often. Be mindful of everything he does for you- not just the obvious things.
You’re so good at that. Let him know what you think he is good at. Is he good at making popcorn- tell him. Is he good at fixing the car? Is he good at problem solving? Maybe he is good at managing money and making sure bills are paid on time. Tell him!
I like it when you (fill in the blank). Does he do something a certain way that you just love? Let him know!I tell Shane that I like it when he touches my back as he walks past me. I like it when he knows exactly what treat I would want from the store. Little things like that I notice and appreciate. I let him know so he will know he is doing something I like and he can keep doing it!
You look nice. Maybe it’s his haircut or how he trimmed his beard. Maybe it’s the outfit he chose. Let him know you like how he looks. Does look really nice in a certain color? Tell him. I know this sounds more like something a girl would appreciate but guys like to know it, too!
I like spending time with you. Tell him what you like doing together. Tell him you are glad you get to do it together. Make sure he knows that time spent with him is valuable to you and appreciated. Maybe at the end of each day you could think of something you enjoyed doing with him that day. Tell him you enjoyed it and why you enjoyed it. What was your favorite part?
What else can you add to my list? What are some things that you can say to build up your husband? Please share with us!
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