I recently came across this photo on Facebook. Maybe some of you have seen it. I normally just pass right over this kind of stuff but when I saw that a couple of people I knew had commented on it I was interested to see what the comments were like. I should have never opened that up. I could not believe what “CHRISTIAN” woman were saying about this photo. Things like, “I was raised with the Bible and taught that sex before marriage was wrong. But when I was a teenager I decided I wanted to so I did. It was my choice to do it.” And also, “My daughter is only 5 but if she wants to have sex as a teenager that is fine with me. It is her choice.”
What does God think about this mentality?
” Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (I Corinthians 6:15-20).
It is not my body! God gave me this temple to use to honor Him. That is why I chose not to have sex before marriage. That is why I choose not to have tattoos. That is why I choose to dress modestly. That is why I exercise and eat right. My body is to glorify God. Yes, we have this choice. God allows us to choose between right and wrong. But that does not mean that choosing wrong is without consequences. Sin has consequences. Sin hurts. We need to be teaching our daughters AND sons that their bodies are to be used for the Lord. We need to be teaching them that sex outside of marriage is wrong and is not without consequence. We need to teach them that Christ paid the ultimate sacrifice for us.
Many comments on that photo were about not making rules for our teenagers but rather just equipping them with good decision-making abilities. I agree we need to teach our children how to make good decisions. BUT I also believe we can keep them from a lot of hurt by placing rules and restrictions in their lives until they are able to make those good decisions.
For example, before William could walk he slept in a crib. I did this to protect him. As he got older he was able to get in and out of a bed without falling so he no longer needed the protection of a crib. Then he was walking around and I needed to put up a baby gate by the stairs. I did this not to hinder his decision-making abilities, but to protect him from falling down the stairs. As he got older he was able to take the stairs successfully so the gate was removed. Now he likes to play outside. He is allowed to play outside but only in our yard. He is not allowed to go down the street by himself. This, again, is not to hinder his decision-making abilities but rather to protect him from being hurt. As he gets older he will be able to go down to the park by himself. Parents need to place restrictions in a child or teenager’s life to protect them.
Ultimately, however, we need to teach our children we do this because God said so. Whenever I correct my kids I say, “God does not like that.” “God hates that.” “God says that will hurt us.” And then I tell them what God does like. And it is important to use Scripture when doing this. It is NOT our bodies, our rules. For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.