5 Words To Build Up Your Husband

5 Words To Build Up Your Husband

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“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”

I feel like Proverbs 18:21 should be hung up everywhere in my home. That way every time I open my mouth to speak I can be reminded that death and life are in the power of the tongue.

Is what I am about to say going to tear someone down or build them up? Encourage or discourage. Sting or be sweet?

Often times our spouses are the ones who feel the sting from our words. They are the ones we direct angry tones toward.

Like Proverbs 18:21 says death and life are in the power of the tongue.

Instead of directing those deadly words and tones toward our spouse let’s use words that bring life! Encouraging, uplifting, loving words instead of discouraging, degrading, angry words.

I made a little list of words that can do just that- encourage, uplift, and show love. Try to use these words more often and see what kind of life it brings into your marriage.

5 Words to Build Up Your Husband

Thankyou. Thanks for taking out the trash. Thanks for providing for our family. Thanks for letting me vent. Thanks for handling the kids. Try to say thankyou more often. Be mindful of everything he does for you- not just the obvious things.
You’re so good at that. Let him know what you think he is good at. Is he good at making popcorn- tell him. Is he good at fixing the car? Is he good at problem solving? Maybe he is good at managing money and making sure bills are paid on time. Tell him!
I like it when you (fill in the blank). Does he do something a certain way that you just love? Let him know!I tell Shane that I like it when he touches my back as he walks past me. I like it when he knows exactly what treat I would want from the store. Little things like that I notice and appreciate. I let him know so he will know he is doing something I like and he can keep doing it!
You look nice. Maybe it’s his haircut or how he trimmed his beard. Maybe it’s the outfit he chose. Let him know you like how he looks. Does look really nice in a certain color? Tell him. I know this sounds more like something a girl would appreciate but guys like to know it, too!
I like spending time with you. Tell him what you like doing together. Tell him you are glad you get to do it together. Make sure he knows that time spent with him is valuable to you and appreciated. Maybe at the end of each day you could think of something you enjoyed doing with him that day. Tell him you enjoyed it and why you enjoyed it. What was your favorite part?

What else can you add to my list? What are some things that you can say to build up your husband? Please share with us!

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25 thoughts on “5 Words To Build Up Your Husband

    1. I am glad you enjoyed the post! And I really like that way of encouraging him before he leaves for work. Thanks for the suggestion!

  1. Hi Sandy – I am your neighbor aver at #TestimonyTuesday today …. Love your post and I love the 5 ways you listed to build our husbands up. Words are so powerful and do indeed have power in them, just like you mentioned. My husband is a words of affirmation guy through and through and I can attest that he does indeed like to be thanked, and he loves it even more when I notice and tell him that I notice the little things he does. Thanks for such an encouraging post.

    PS… if you are looking for another place to linkup – I have a new linkup that I started a few months ago on Thursday’s called #TuneInThursday it goes live at 3am PST and stays open through Sunday night. I would love to have you join the community there. You can find it here: http://debbiekitterman.com/blog/ (PS feel free to delete the link if you feel it is inappropriate to post here). Blessings

    1. Good evening, Debbie! Thanks for stopping by. I am glad you can be encouraged by this post. I will definitely head over to your blog and be a part of your link up. I am actually planning on working on my link up list tonight so I will be sure to add it to that post, too!

      1. Hi Sandy – Thank you for linking up with #TuneInThursday today! I am so blessed to have you linking your posts as part of the community each Thursday.. I also checked out your resource page you linked up but couldn’t comment on it since there were no comment boxes. but I didn’t know about some of those affiliates, I am going to check them out. Again thanks for joining our community today

  2. great list – i like to say: Thank you for being such a great listener! (of course, he gets lots of practice!)

    1. Oh that’s a good one! I always tell my husband I need more practice listening so he needs to stop listening and talk more lol. But he is a great listener and that’s a great one to add to the list. Thanks!

  3. Hi Sandy, welcome to #ChasingCommunity, nice to meet you. 🙂 Thanks for sharing this great list — isn’t it so true how often our tongues can forget to stick to the plan and go off on their own tangents? Happens to me, too. Praise God for grace. In addition to your great list, one thing my husband enjoys is when I ask him about his day, his work, etc. Great to connect with you, Sarah. ((graces))

    1. Yes, I was thinking that as I was writing it. Us wives would love to hear these words in return. I wonder if we say them more often if we might hear them more often? Thanks for stopping by!

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